Bras have reached cultural icon status and are rarely viewed as anything less than a feminine necessity, an object of womanhood, and an anchor of fashion.

So why is it that I, a woman who owns no less than 42 bras in a variety of cuts and colors, chooses to wear one as little as possible? Why would I rather wear a snug fitting tank top instead? My reason for this stems back to a book I once read titled Dressed to Kill by Sydney Ross Singer and Soma Grismaijer, 1995, Avery Publishers, 192 pages.

The authors collected striking evidence that bra-wearing may be a major risk factor associated with breast cancer. They state that women who wear tight-fitting bras 24 hours a day are 125 times more likely to have breast cancer than women who do not wear bras at all. Their interpretation is that tight clothing inhibits the proper functioning of the lymphatic system (an internal network of vessels and nodes that flushes wastes from the body) and leads to a buildup of carcinogenic compounds in the constricted areas. Additionally, in their research with hundreds of women they have found getting rid of the bra has resulted in a remarkable recovery in over 95% of the cases of general breast health problems such as cysts, edema, tenderness. Also, it is interesting to note that breast disease is only a problem in bra wearing cultures. Women who are bra-free have the same breast cancer incidence as men.

Although the study failed to include a detailed analysis of the lifestyles of the women such as smoking, drinking, diet, etc., I have always thought that their theory makes a great deal of sense and hence, I avoid the bra as much as possible. Anyone concerned with breast cancer, should at least consider reading this book. Here is a link to Authors’ website http://www.selfstudycenter.org/dressedtokill.htm

Having read Ms. Brady's assessment of breasts - most notably, large breasts
- I would have to say that her rendering of the subject matter is quite
accurate and thoughtful. As a man who has been more-than-lucky in having had
terrific women in his life (by the way,  not all of them large breasted) I
think her overview on both the female and male position is quite accurate.
She seems to have a pretty good grasp of the male thought process. And she
is right about many things.

One thing that stands out for me, is the fact that she recognizes that there
are men out there who will both honor and appreciate you, as well as attempt
to influence you in a negative way. As a woman, you must take responsibility
for yourself, and not allow a toxic personality influence how you think
about who you are. Remember this .... the man that cares about you ... the
man who wants good things for you, will do everything he can to help you
overcome the damage done to you by others. A good man will take the time to
understand why you feel as you do. And if your relationship is positive, and
he says the right things, in time, you may see yourself through his eyes in
a new affirming way.

Another thing that struck me in Ms. Brady's comments was her awareness that
the times we live in often dictate the fashion of the moment.  Back in the
radical 60's and early 70's, thin, small breasted girls replete with hippie
garb was the "in" thing. The look was svelte, lithe, and men tended to
gravitate to smaller bosoms. That is not to say they didn't ogle the rounded
voluptuous college co-ed too, but the girls of that period thought of
themselves as fat, and out of sync with the times.  And that affected how
they presented themselves. By the time the 80s' came around, breasts and
"bodies" were back. Full-figured models had whole agencies devoted to them.

Something unheard of in, say, 1970. But it underlines a core fact ....
voluptuous women are NEVER out-of-style. And if you are one of the lucky
ones who have two lovely "C" or "D" (or larger) cups as part of your natural
shape, believe me when I tell you that your life will, in fact, offer you
many more opportunities because of that fateful difference. This may not be
fair, or even right, but it's true. More men will talk to you -- and notice
you.  And because there are more of them, (assuming you are smart enough to
choose correctly), you have that much more opportunity to pick a guy who's
right for you. It stands to reason: the more choices you have, the better
the options.

I went out with a woman for many years. She was a full 36D on a 5'5" frame
and she weighed 142 lbs. Not skinny by any means. In fact, she gained 15 lbs
over an eight year period. In that time, she advanced two cup sizes, from a
34B/C to a 36C to a 36D. And in that time, her posture got worse. Not
terrible, just not great. She didn't slouch. But she would allow her
shoulders to fall back and droop, thus pulling her chest are downward. I
mentioned it to her. Over time, she admitted that as a young person, an
especially in high school, she was known - in part - for her boobs. Now,
this person is also kind, compassionate, smart, funny and a lot of thing ...
AND ... she does have terrific boobs. In fact, they look great. She knows
she is lucky. But nevertheless, she subconsciously masked them by her less
than adequate posture. But that changed over time because I was able to show
her how much better her clothes looked on her, and how much taller she
appeared when her shoulders were pulled forward an inch and she stood up
straight. It really made a difference. And I was happy to have been a factor
in her change of perspective.

We live in an breast-obsessed culture. Images are bombarded at us all the
time. Young girls measure themselves against advertising icons, and products
designed to make us appreciate one thing over the next. Men too. We are fed
a constant diet of ideas, images, influences and such that affect who we
find attractive, sexy, or worthy of our time and attention. You men out
there may be thinking ... "not me ... I am above all that."  But I assure
you, you are not. For me personally, I went from idolizing breasts which
were in vogue when I was a kid (i.e. Playboy was in it's heyday), to liking
something smaller bosoms, to liking women, regardless of breast size.
Although, to be honest, I would rather have an ample breasted woman than
not. But as I have evolved over time, "breast size" is not the all important
deal maker it once was in my younger days. But if I had my choice, a 34E or
a 36DD is a lot more fun to wake up to ... especially if I care for the
person.

I think men should take stock of themselves and resist the obsessive desire to categorize and sort women into breast categories. I think the best thing one can do is look at the entire person. And, if she happens to have the type of breasts you like ... cool. If not, get over it. And if you still have problems, leave her alone. And if you feel the need to
be a pest, either leave her alone, or just leave her. Don't convince her to
do anything ... don't push to make them bigger or smaller. That's your
problem, not hers. They're not yours to own. You are just the person leasing
that territory. Best remember that, and appreciate her for who she is. But
if you have to have some input, be kind, considerate, and open to what she
has to say.  You'll both be happier.

Women who get reductions aren't just selling themselves out, they are selling their future daughters out. Think about it. Naturally busty women who want to have children run a decent chance of bearing a girl, who will most likely inherit the same breasts. What are breast-reduced mothers to say to their busty teenage daughters? How exactly will they attempt to justify their own insecurity related reduction?

Okay, laugh.. but any attempt of a justification is still going to send this same message; that she is flawed in society's view and it would be best for her to conform and make herself look like the rest of the Hollywood standard of women so she can fit in and live happily ever after. Tra-La-La-La LAH!!! I say that's a destructive and unrealistic message and not one that mothers should be sending to their daughters.

What message does a mother send to her daughter if she has her own breasts voluntarily butchered to look more acceptable whilst her beloved daughter has the same ones? I'll tell you; a message of inadequacy and insecurity which are the same emotions that persuade women to have reductions in the first place! Additionally, it teaches her to cower down in the face of opposition. Children only model their parents behavior as well as do what they are prompted to do. If women tell their daughters that they are doomed to a lifetime of failed relationships and back pains, I guarantee they will be doomed to a lifetime of exactly that. Is that what naturally large breasted women want for their daughters? We each must be the change we seek in the world. Big busted mothers must carry the torch as pass it to their offspring.

I once contemplated donating my eggs. I don't have children and never really had enough motherly instinct to want any. So, I was thinking that I might consider doing this for couples who can't conceive. Well I thought long and hard on the subject and decided that I could't handle having a little Cherry out in the cruel world without me. What if she was conceived to a nice Christian family of a small breasted or reduced woman who made my girl feel inferior for having natural large breasts? There IS a good chance that a daughter of mine would have naturally large breasts as I come from a long line of buxom women. The women on both sides of my family were large breasted. It would just kill me to think that she might have NO support for the God given, perfectly natural way that she was born. Her innocently loving but misguided family might look at huge breasts as shameful and a sort of flaw, when I know they are truly her gift. I wouldn't have helped humanity a bit. I imagine that if I were a mother that I would be a proud role model with a proud daughter who is perfectly adept at handling the cruelties of society. Only I could transfer that message in a thoughtful and skillful way to her. I certainly would show her how to avoid allowing the insecure creeps in this world to influence her perception of herself. I would carry the torch for my daughter and pass it off to her so that she may do the same some day.

Fathers have a responsibility to their inevitably big busted daughters as well and the big breasted daughter especially needs a father. THE male in a girl's life before she comes into puberty is her father. A father can tell her things that her mother may not be able to such as the crude realities that only a man can share. He can help make her aware of the power and responsibility she carries with her, or soon will. He could arm his daughter with skills such as recognizing male manipulative behavior while her mother arms her with the knowledge of how to deal with jealous women. Everyone preaches that they want to teach their children themselves, but they always leave out interpersonal and life skills that deal with human sexuality. Teens don't need to be sheltered from it to so much that they enter their independent years with a sugar coated view of it. Once in the real world, they will be harshly disappointed to learn these lessons blindly. A fathers need NOT look into his daughter's eyes with fear that she has a long road ahead of men who only want to use her for her obvious sexual assets; or with the look that tells her that he is proud of her for her good grades or intelligence but scared to death of her sexuality. She will sense it. Instead, a father should be looking into his daughter's eyes with warmth, appreciation and the confidence that she is emotionally equipped to thrive in the adult world. She will sense it.

Even if a woman who has already had a reduction has a responsibility to her offspring. I would hope that she could be humble enough to see her own faults so as to spare her daughter from the same debilitating, self-destructive behavior. Daughters can learn from, as well as learn to respect, the mistakes of their mothers. Furthermore, women who view their breasts as a burden, need to get straight with themselves before they decide to create little replicas of themselves. Their insecurities will inevitably be their daughter's insecurities. The best thing buxom women can do for the future generation is to stand tall, walk proud, and pass the prideful torch filled with beauty, self-appreciation, and security and that applies to all women, not just large busted women. Teaching potentially busty daughters the linguistic skills to feel secure enough to defend themselves against jealous or uninformed people will help them in ALL aspects of their lives.

Women have a tendency to blame their breasts for every empty one night stand or failed relationship or problem in their lives. I call this demonizing the breasts. If we spent more effort working on our character and personality instead of nitpicking every perceived flaw on our exterior, then our interpersonal relationships would be much more rewarding.

I once knew a girl who would make the same stupid one night stand mistakes over and over again. She had wonderful large natural breasts and she attracted a lot of male attention. She was single and looking for a serious relationship. Her problem was that she never learned from her mistakes or she did not allow herself to take blame for choosing incorrectly. Instead, she inevitably blamed her tits for being the center of male attention. She got a breast reduction. I don't know if she ever solved her problems with the reduction because I could not understand why she did that to herself, and we drifted apart quickly.

Naturally buxom women need to realize that their breasts are a blessing - they are a valuable tool for attracting a mate. Most men adore a bountiful bosom and a woman who has that, has the opportunity to attract more potential mates that those who do not. Her breasts are providing her with an opportunity to further demonstrate her character and personality to a potential beau. Busty women are already way ahead of the mating game. It's no secret why augmentation is so popular - tits rule!

Once busty women realize how fortunate they are for having men knocking down their door courtesy of their fleshy assets, they next need to realize that it is up to them to weed out unsuitable men. They have to use their brain and instincts to eliminate the non-acceptable ones and select the one that will make them happy.

If a woman is looking for a meaningful relationship, then she can't just go and fuck a guy just because he's nice on her. A horny guy will say and do whatever it takes to attract a woman to him and likewise, we do the same. However, only her judgment is to blame if, after initially attracting him with her breasts, she decides to hop into the sack with him, but feels empty because after the sex he's getting dressed saying. Well that was good and all but I gotta go! There is a tendency to blame it on the asset whether it be breasts, ass, legs, etc. Her judgment is to blame, not her tits. Tits are assets not liabilities.

Remember that SHE was a willing participant in this venture to begin with. Oh, I know how it goes! She is at a bar or work party or somewhere and there's this guy who she make eye contact with. She starts to talk to him and finds that she is sexually attracted to him, so she pulls out all the stops! She loosens the shirt, fixes her lipstick, plays with her hair, talks sexy, touches his leg, makes sexual innuendos, glorifies her sexual talents It's ok - don't make fun of her. Its natural! That's called MATING. It is innate in women to want to entice and attract a mate. Men are doing the same. So, back to the bar; she is basically talking some serious sexy shit, and she works herself up into a horny frenzy, and ends up wanting to fuck him. Time to evaluate. Does she want this because of her basic human need to feel loved? Does she want this because she is horny as all fuck and just wants to satisfy this one carnal desire? Or is this man someone she will have a future with? Remember she enticed him with sexuality first. Now she has to decide whether this is a fuck or a future. This is where she has to be honest with herself:

• If she thinks it is a future, then like her mother probably told her, he and she can wait.
• If she is just using sex as a tool to feel loved, needed, and/or in control, then in defense of men out there, she shouldn't drag them into her psycho-bullshit. Face it: If a woman isn't cool with herself, then she is not ever going to be cool with some guy! That goes vice-versa, by the way.
• If she is just horny well then I say that she should GO FOR IT but with one condition - she should request that he eat her pussy first. If HE doesn't want to, then she should take that as a queue to ditch his non-cunnilingus-performing-ass right then! If SHE doesn't want him to because she doesn't know him well enough or is too shy, then perhaps she just wants male attention. And by the way, those are not good reasons for a woman not wanting her sexual selection to pleasure her orally on their first time. Hopefully she is aware that he IS going to insert his penis into her vagina, he may end up spraying a load of jism all over her assets, and he probably would't mind a blow job as well - right? So no woman should feel guilty by requesting a sexual partner's mouth on her pussy. Women deserve as much pleasure as her partner requests of her. If she does not get her sexual release then there wasn't any point in the zipless fuck. 

Furthermore, I believe all parties have to go into every relationship balls-to-the-wall with no misgivings about past events. Oh sure they can use past knowledge to determine future events, but they control them. No person should go into some relationship with a chip on their shoulder because they got used by the last person. If it turns out that it does not work out, well hell at she least she got off and extricated some pleasure out of the experience. 

Naturally busty women must realize the full power of their cleavage and just how lucky they are to have sexual assets that men desire. When a busty woman, who is in the dating game, attracts a man because of her busty fortune, she should not blame her breasts if it does not work out. Her breasts are not the demons, they are her working for her, not against her. Additionally, If she finds that she was not satisfied sexually by her fling or if she finds that it was a one night stand but wanted more, she has no right to blame her tits. They were mere pawns in her game. Her tits are there to attract, now she has to use her brain and judgment to properly asses the situation.  Breast-blessed women who fail to properly screen out their mate need to put the blame where it really belongs.